This morning my partner surprised me with a spontaneous lovemaking session. It was so awesome. I had a number of vaginal orgasms during our session, but mostly it was just wonderful to connect with him. After he had his orgasm I asked him to stay on top of me while I did self clitoral stimulation. It was fun to have his presence there and I loved the feeling of his weight on my body.
I recommend having your partner join you for self pleasure sessions every now and then. For one it can be great for them to see how you like to be stimulated. Two it can be an erotic turn on for both of you. And three it’s a nice addition to lovemaking, especially if your partner is prone to coming quickly and you still want to have an orgasm (not that, that is my case). There’s nothing wrong with lending a hand every now and then.
After a fulfilling day of private session work, I decided to practice what I preach. I modified a technique called Aswini Mudra for one of my clients who is wanting to pro-long orgasms. I thought it would be a great way to enjoy myself during my self-pleasure session. So I started out with Aswini Mudra- inhaling one third of my lung capacity, contracting and relaxing my anal sphincter rapidly, inhaling a second third, contracting and relaxing, filling my lungs, contracting and relaxing, holding the contraction, holding my breath, rolling my shoulders up and forward and dropping my chin to my chest. Lifting my chin, taking a sniff of air, as I relaxed all the tension from my body. I did this all the while sitting with the heel of my foot on my clitoris.
After a few rounds I went fully into my self-pleasure, lying on the floor with a Liberator Fascinator Throe for some soft padding. I had the Njoy Pure Wand handy. I started with some clitoral stimulation combined with the Aswini Mudra. After I felt adequately aroused I decided to use the Pure Wand. With the small end I did g-spot, u-spot and a-spot stimulation. AWESOME! The combination of Aswini Mudra, with clitoral stimulation and the Pure Wand sent me into multiple orgasms. It started when I got close to a clitoral orgasm and I stopped the clitoral stimulation which triggered a Vaginal Orgasm. It was a large, wonderful extended orgasm. Then I went back to clitoral stimulation combined with the Pure Wand on my g-spot and u-spot, next thing I knew I was ejaculating. I kept going. Soon after came the big bang clitoral orgasm. I rested for a moment with aftershocks and sexual energy coursing through my body.
Where do I begin? Let’s see, late last night, after midnight, I really just wanted things to be like old days, before my baby was born. I used to get myself to sleep with multiple orgasms every night, but every since I gave birth, I haven’t been able to do that; the opposite happens and I’m up all night. But I went for it anyway. A lovely nostalgic late night/early morning romp.
I woke up in the morning ready for my orgasmic shot of energy, so I made love to myself again. My mind was on fire during the entire session. I just kept thinking about Erotophobia, the fear of the erotic; sometimes also called sexual shame. I know that there are a number of causes, but it’s still so hard for me to understand why sex has become such a “bad” thing. Why are things like masturbation, oral sex and anal play so taboo? I just don’t get it. Sex is wonderful. It’s something so natural. It’s such a way to celebrate being human. I’m glad I’ve worked through most of my sexual shame. It still comes up every now and then, but for the most part I’m pretty free.
The electricity went out in the neighborhood, it’s still out as I write this. I love when the electricity goes out. It’s so quiet, it’s so dark, and the light we do have is often candles. My partner and I stood out on the deck for a long time looking at the stars, listening to crickets, and softly talking. I would like to do that more often. We held each other an ate some Hibiscus.
I used the energy of our soft romance for my session. I went into the guest bath with a lantern. Ah, the hot water of the shower with the soft light, it was so nice. I took a long time washing my hair. I love having my hair washed. Then tried some bath salts. I like the sensations of the salts and how soft my skin feels after using them. I thought a lot about women who can have orgasms from breast stimulation. While I like my breasts stimulated it hasn’t really been something I have experienced. I thought that perhaps it was time to explore this possibility. But I just couldn’t get there. I tried a variety of different breast massage techniques and nipple stimulation. Light touch did feel good. I think that all of the breastfeeding has desensitized me a bit. I’m curious as to what my breasts will be like when I stop and they are no longer a food factory but become a sexual organ once again. I got impatient with the whole breast affair and moved to genital touch. I am loving the feeling of this Brazilian Bikini Wax! Everything just feels so clean and more sensitive. I did a little clitoral and u-spot stimulation where I moved my index fingers of each hand in tiny circular motions. That was really nice. It’s late at night, so no orgasm tonight. I am learning that I definitely prefer to self-pleasure in the morning or afternoon.
Being a Sex Educator is the best Job EVER! I mean who gets to talk about sex, self-pleasure on the job, and do research about love, relationships and pleasure!?!? Well, I do! Today I was back in the recording booth finishing the Voice Overs for the newOral Sex Series. I was in the booth for a total of about 4 hours, so I thought I might as well take advantage of the time. I was alone in there, and the Voice Over could use a little added sexual energy, so why not go for it. As I read the techniques for cunnilingus I did a bunch of Kegel Exercises and the added some light clitoral stimulation. The chair I was sitting in was also nice to rock my pelvis back and forth. It was a yummy time!
There’s a sex toy that many of my female friends rave about, so I’ve been saving it for a special day. I really wanted to treat myself to a nice session so I pulled out the Eroscilator. This isn’t a vibrator, it actually oscilates, which is more like your finger moving back and forth over your clitoris. I unpacked this golden pleasure device and carefully read the instructions. It has a number of different attachments, I choose the ball attachment. I was very excited for an awesome experience. Maybe I built it up a little too much. I was really hoping that it didn’t do the same thing that I often experience with vibrators, which is that my clitoris gets overstimulated and I have these little quick surface orgasms. Knowing this I started with indirect stimulation to my clit through my labia. Then I moved to the clitoral shaft. This was all very nice. As soon as I got near my clitoral head, wham! One of those little orgasms and my clit became too sensitive. I moved to manual stimulation and had an awesome clitoral orgasm. Will I try the Eroscilator again? Yes, there’s a lot to explore about this toy and I want to try it all. As I’ve learned with sex, it changes from day to day. Right now I feel like I am totally learning how to use vibrating and oscilating toys. It’s a good thing that I like to practice!
I’ve been wanting to do something with Lingerie since I started this expedition. So today I got out a little bra and pantie set that I had bought for a Playboy shoot that I did earlier this year. This self-pleasure session did involve my partner. He was loving the lingerie and it started what turned out to be one very “hot” lovemaking session. During the session, as per the theme of self-pleasuring, I leant a hand by giving myself clitoral stimulation as we had intercourse. It was awesome. I had both vaginal and clitoral orgasms, and my partner was riding on wave after wave of energetic orgasm before going over the edge into an ejaculatory orgasm. I wanted to continue my self-pleasure by checking out the lingerie in a mirror so that I could see my sexiness. And did I look sexy! I have never liked lingerie because I never felt like I looked good in it, but this was awesome. I felt like one hot mamma, and that felt really good. I think I’ll have to get some more to add to my collection. Ladies, if you are on the fence about Lingerie, well, I advise not giving up on it and go on a hunt for stuff that makes you feel sexy. I think that the most important part, was the feeling sexy piece. It increase my libido, it increased my partner’s libido, and it made the whole experience really fun. Not to mention that it was very out of our pattern since I have never worn lingerie before, so it gave the whole thing that extra level of the erotic. It was like being together in the begining of our relationship, before the baby, when everything is new. I loved it!
Just had an awesome orgasm, did I need that! I spent the day looking at naked bodies (working on my oral sex series) and listening to sex stories on Playboy Radio, so by the time I got home I was feeling turned on. I decided to try something that I have never tried before, which is humping a pillow. I never thought it would be effective. I got out the Liberator Whirl and well, gave it a Whirl! It was nice, kind of like being on top of my partner. I could have definitly had a clitoral orgasm from the stimulation of it, but I got impatient and wanted the release, so I went for my good old faithful manual technique. I think I had the orgasm in under 30 seconds. My clitoris was very engorged with blood and ready to go. I must have been aroused all day long! This was great, I will definitly try pillow humping again 🙂
Today I was in studio recording the Voice Over track for Volume One of my new Oral Sex series. To spice things up a bit and help me to get my sexy energy voice going I did a bunch of kegels while imagining that I was either giving or recieving oral pleasures! My self-pleasure session may have been combined with working, but hey, it was great. And the recording turned out to be awesome. I thought I’d add some more self-pleasure as the day ended. It’s now just a few minutes before midnight. I just finished a session where I was lying on my side with my legs closed, while doing clitoral stimulation. Held off on the orgasm though, due to the fact that it’s so late. I think session number 39 will be my opportunity to go over the edge and do a nice long self love day!
This session was wonderful. At first my mind was racing and it was really hard to stay present with the sensations in my body. As I settled into it though and brought my awareness into my hands it helped me to pay attention to the pleasure. I must say, I have great touch skill. I usually think of applying this skill to my partners, but why not apply it to my own body? I spent time lightly touching and tantilizing every inch of my skin. I found delightful places to spend a little bit more time, like my inner thighs, over my vulva and then up to my belly. I also did a little hard scratching on my skin. I found the contrast between the light touch and the hard scratching to send shivers all over. But even more exciting wa finding a new pleasurable way to touch my clitoris. I squeezed it hard between my thumb and forefinger of one hand so that the head and clitoral hood were just barely exposed between my fingers. Then I took the forefinger of my other hand and very, very lightly stroked the exposed area of my clit. That was awesome! I decided not to have an orgasms, because it was later in the day and I didn’t want to get all jazzed up before bed. Plus, I like teasing myself and sometimes staying in an orgasmic state as opposed to have the “genital sneeze” type clitoral orgasm. So, I stayed right there, and am still floating there!
