I wish that every session could happen just as I am waking up. Oh, I so enjoy morning self-pleasuring! For one, I know that I can go into orgasms without having to worry about the fact that they keep me from sleeping. In the morning orgasms are like drinking a triple expresso. This morning I had the opportunity to do a little self love. I spent time massaging my vulva, belly and thighs. I used direct clitoral stimulation with fingers. It was a bit of my usual pattern, stimulating my clitoris combined with body tension. I had an awesome clitoral orgasm. But felt like I could definitely keep going, so I went for a couple more through the same technique. Afterwards I felt happy, energized and ready to conquer my day!
There’s a sex toy that many of my female friends rave about, so I’ve been saving it for a special day. I really wanted to treat myself to a nice session so I pulled out the Eroscilator. This isn’t a vibrator, it actually oscilates, which is more like your finger moving back and forth over your clitoris. I unpacked this golden pleasure device and carefully read the instructions. It has a number of different attachments, I choose the ball attachment. I was very excited for an awesome experience. Maybe I built it up a little too much. I was really hoping that it didn’t do the same thing that I often experience with vibrators, which is that my clitoris gets overstimulated and I have these little quick surface orgasms. Knowing this I started with indirect stimulation to my clit through my labia. Then I moved to the clitoral shaft. This was all very nice. As soon as I got near my clitoral head, wham! One of those little orgasms and my clit became too sensitive. I moved to manual stimulation and had an awesome clitoral orgasm. Will I try the Eroscilator again? Yes, there’s a lot to explore about this toy and I want to try it all. As I’ve learned with sex, it changes from day to day. Right now I feel like I am totally learning how to use vibrating and oscilating toys. It’s a good thing that I like to practice!
Picture this, I’m in front of a room full of people demonstrating Self-Pleasure while the workshop teacher is demonstrating how to support and even amp up the erotic energy. The workshop was on Energetic Sex taught by Reid Mihalko, and I volunteered to be his demo model for the day. I’m not your average sex educator, the biggest reason is that I firmly believe in Show and Tell sex education. Some people are very visual learners, like me, and it helps us to be able to see what is being taught. Reid is like me in that he teaches through lots of demonstration. I demonstrated self-pleasure by lightly touching myself all over, stretching my labia, rolling my clitoris, slapping my vulva and other various techniques. Meanwhile, Reid demonstrated supporting me and ramping me up into energetic orgasm while I self pleasured. And although I didn’t have a physical orgasm, I move lots of sexual energy and had a number of energetic orgasms. YUM!!!!
My partner D.Love and I had our anniversary today. He came with me, which was wonderful. I love that he didn’t get jealous and he felt comfortable with my demonstration in front of a room full of people. After the workshop we went out and had a very indulgent dinner near Venice Beach. I was so full of erotic energy that we kissed more than we ate. The food was amazing and being close to him was so nurturing that I actually started to cry. We have had such an awesome love affair together, including making a baby and bringing it into the world. I am such a lucky woman to have had such divine partners.
With only 20 minutes to spare I made it! Hot showers are the best. Everyone was asleep so I went into the guest bath and took a really hot shower. I’ve never showered in there before. There’s a large frosted glass window that looks out onto the porch so at night I could see my sillhoette in the window. It was very sexy. I’m feeling very sexy these days, maybe it’s one of the effects of this project. Hot water in itself is great pleasure, but add in a freshly waxed vulva and you have a great combination (at least in my case!). The water felt so good, so I stretched my labia out to the sides so that my clitoris was exposed to the hot water. Awesome! I did some tapping on my clit and my u-spot, which almost always brings about some female ejaculate. It’s past midnight, must get some sleep. But before I head off to bed, I must say that I prefer to self pleasure during the day. Although I usually end up enjoying my night sessions I like scheduling longer periods duirng the day and having an orgasm. At night if I have an orgasm it is really hard to sleep, so I hold off, at least on clitoral orgasms.
As a continuation of a glorious day (see part one for the begining), I decided to explore Vaginal Pleasure. This was inspired by a question I recieved from a woman asking about how to cultivate vaginal orgasms. I’m working on my newest book with Ellen Heed and we were talking about the pelvic nerve and it’s connection to vaginal orgasms. See, with deep penetration after lots of arousal, the pelvic nerve is stimulated which is related to downregulation of your nervous system. Relaxation is also vital to extended vaginal orgasms. But so is the excitement of sexual arousal. That’s why clitoral stimulation is also important. I talk a lot about excitement and enjoyment, tenstion and relaxation, when both are present you are more likely to experience clitoral and vaginal orgasms.
In choosing my session today I went for a larger Nobesssence Pleasure Object. Large sex toys intimidate me, therefore, I usually stay away from them. I am glad I got over my fear and gave this beautiful piece of wood a try. I am always very impressed at the design. These toys work perfect for my body. I started with stimulation to my clit with the end of the toy, then moved to teasing at the entrance of my vagina. I slowly worked my way in, first with the tip and eventually moving to deep penetration. I used my other hand to stimulate my clitoris while usinge the toy for repeated penetration. I worked with a
Another day of a first. I think I’m on a roll for trying new things lately! This morning I got up knowing that I was going into the spa for a Bikini Wax, no idea what to expect, except that the woman doing the wax suggested that I take aspirin for the pain. I opted out of the aspirin ( I gave birth with out any drugs, I can definitly handle a Bikini wax!) But first, I took my new favorite book Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, and hopped on the bike at the gym. I LOVE working out! After an hour of cardio and a stimulating read, I went into the Atmosphere Day Spa for a good massage. After the massage I had a facial scheduled and then the wax. After talking to Laura (the woman who’s an expert on the waxing and would be doing the deed for me) we decided to do the wax first so that I could relax into the facial. So here I am lying on a table with that stiff gynocologist paper underneath me, my nether regions completely exposed and I’m laughing my head off. This is crazy! Laura places hot wax on my “down there” and I start in with the stream of questions. “I bet you’ve seen so many different types of women’s genitals?” “What’s the History behind the Brazilian Bikini Wax?” “Why do women get this done?” I went on and on while she waxed all the hair off. At one point I’m lying on my side, one leg bent and up in the air as she’s really getting in there, even tweezing little hairs that didn’t come out with the wax. At another I’ve got a popsicle stick on my clit, holding it out of the way, while she removes the hair from my upper outer labia. I must have a high tolerance for pain, because it really didn’t hurt all that much. It was kind of a good sting in some ways. Yes, parts of it were really intense, but it was over quickly. And the result, perfectly smooth genitals with barely any hair ( I decided to leave a little patch). I was really relaxed for my facial, which was wonderful. Then I used the spa facilities for a shower and steam. AHHHH! Wonderfully blissed out I left, with a bare cooch, for a lunch at my favorite vegan restaurant. Ate lunch, had a hike, and now I’m ready for part two- a long self pleasure session…
I’ve been wanting to do something with Lingerie since I started this expedition. So today I got out a little bra and pantie set that I had bought for a Playboy shoot that I did earlier this year. This self-pleasure session did involve my partner. He was loving the lingerie and it started what turned out to be one very “hot” lovemaking session. During the session, as per the theme of self-pleasuring, I leant a hand by giving myself clitoral stimulation as we had intercourse. It was awesome. I had both vaginal and clitoral orgasms, and my partner was riding on wave after wave of energetic orgasm before going over the edge into an ejaculatory orgasm. I wanted to continue my self-pleasure by checking out the lingerie in a mirror so that I could see my sexiness. And did I look sexy! I have never liked lingerie because I never felt like I looked good in it, but this was awesome. I felt like one hot mamma, and that felt really good. I think I’ll have to get some more to add to my collection. Ladies, if you are on the fence about Lingerie, well, I advise not giving up on it and go on a hunt for stuff that makes you feel sexy. I think that the most important part, was the feeling sexy piece. It increase my libido, it increased my partner’s libido, and it made the whole experience really fun. Not to mention that it was very out of our pattern since I have never worn lingerie before, so it gave the whole thing that extra level of the erotic. It was like being together in the begining of our relationship, before the baby, when everything is new. I loved it!
Just had an awesome orgasm, did I need that! I spent the day looking at naked bodies (working on my oral sex series) and listening to sex stories on Playboy Radio, so by the time I got home I was feeling turned on. I decided to try something that I have never tried before, which is humping a pillow. I never thought it would be effective. I got out the Liberator Whirl and well, gave it a Whirl! It was nice, kind of like being on top of my partner. I could have definitly had a clitoral orgasm from the stimulation of it, but I got impatient and wanted the release, so I went for my good old faithful manual technique. I think I had the orgasm in under 30 seconds. My clitoris was very engorged with blood and ready to go. I must have been aroused all day long! This was great, I will definitly try pillow humping again 🙂
Today I was in studio recording the Voice Over track for Volume One of my new Oral Sex series. To spice things up a bit and help me to get my sexy energy voice going I did a bunch of kegels while imagining that I was either giving or recieving oral pleasures! My self-pleasure session may have been combined with working, but hey, it was great. And the recording turned out to be awesome. I thought I’d add some more self-pleasure as the day ended. It’s now just a few minutes before midnight. I just finished a session where I was lying on my side with my legs closed, while doing clitoral stimulation. Held off on the orgasm though, due to the fact that it’s so late. I think session number 39 will be my opportunity to go over the edge and do a nice long self love day!
This session was wonderful. At first my mind was racing and it was really hard to stay present with the sensations in my body. As I settled into it though and brought my awareness into my hands it helped me to pay attention to the pleasure. I must say, I have great touch skill. I usually think of applying this skill to my partners, but why not apply it to my own body? I spent time lightly touching and tantilizing every inch of my skin. I found delightful places to spend a little bit more time, like my inner thighs, over my vulva and then up to my belly. I also did a little hard scratching on my skin. I found the contrast between the light touch and the hard scratching to send shivers all over. But even more exciting wa finding a new pleasurable way to touch my clitoris. I squeezed it hard between my thumb and forefinger of one hand so that the head and clitoral hood were just barely exposed between my fingers. Then I took the forefinger of my other hand and very, very lightly stroked the exposed area of my clit. That was awesome! I decided not to have an orgasms, because it was later in the day and I didn’t want to get all jazzed up before bed. Plus, I like teasing myself and sometimes staying in an orgasmic state as opposed to have the “genital sneeze” type clitoral orgasm. So, I stayed right there, and am still floating there!
