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My Camera was stolen! Bummer. I promise I am still practicing my 101 Days, I just don’t have the ability to do video posts…so, I’m writing it all down for you, until I get a new camera…

Day 70- It’s a Good Day!

I beat myself up way too much. I think I’m my own worst critic.  As part of self-loving I think it’s important that I also start being easier on myself and that I really hear it when people telling me that they love me, that I’m doing a good job, and then they do nice things for me.  Today was a very good day and I am breathing in the pleasure of that.  I can think of so much to be grateful for as I slow down and focus on my breath, my heart and all that I have accomplished.  It’s a really good life I am living.  So as I stroked my vulva I counted my blessings and as I touched different areas of my body I thanked them.  It’s been too long since I have thanked my body for all that it does and all of the pleasure that it brings me.   My body is amazing.  Sometimes I forget to listen to it in all the noise in my mind, sometimes I forget to thank myself and be grateful for who I am. I’m feeling pretty awesome tonight!

If you’ve been joining me on this exploration I invite you to try this.  So often we take our bodies for granted, it’s nice to take the time to thank them.  Start with your face, touch your face and think about what it gives you everyday.  Love your eyes, your nose, your lips, you hair.  Think about the pleasure these parts give you.  Continue throughout your entire body…

Day 69- Blessingway, Dinner, Movie, Sleep

In the theme of self-love I decided not to push myself to “masturbate” before I went to sleep.  Instead I tried weaving pleasure throughout my day.  I started the day doing a little postpartum sexuality research and then headed to a Blessingway for a friend.  It was such a sweet gathering of wise women sharing their experiences of motherhood.  I realize that something that feeds me is being in community with other women.  It is such a need for us to come together, share wisdom, food, songs, and ritual.  This was a lovely way to receive pleasure, even if it didn’t involve my genitals.  After some time with the girls I went to dinner with my partner and son.  It was so lovely to be with them, just enjoying our time together having a night out.  It might not have been romantic or orgasmic in the traditional sense, but I felt so close to my family and that brought me joy.  We visited a book store afterwards, while my son and pappa were looking for dinosaur books I checked out my own book.  Sometimes I love visiting my book Red Hot Touch in the bookstore.  It gives me such a sense of accomplishment.  We went home and after the baby was asleep my partner and I curled up on the couch to watch a movie.  It’s something so rare and it felt so good just to sit there and relax with him.  I then drifted off to sleep my hand on my vulva (I have to get some genital touch in there!) feeling completely at ease.

Day 68- Fantasy Pulls Me Out of The FuNK

Finally, a great session.  I feel like I’m back!  My partner and I had our regularly scheduled intimacy time today.  Things have been so funky this week and I feel like I’ve lost sight of what this project is all about.  It’s about pleasure, and this week has felt like a chore.  But this session was what I love.  I’m making a new commitment to make this more about loving myself and more about what really brings me pleasure, more than anything else.  I have to take the time for myself.  So, back to my session.  My partner and I climbed up to the love loft.  We were still having trouble getting out of our heads, so I thought I might as well practice what I preach and use some of my own recommendations to help.  I closed my eyes and allowed my partner to tell me an erotic story.  He did a great job describing the details and using his touch to ground it into my body.  It got me really turned on both mentally and physically and the story telling helped to keep me very present in the moment.  We went deep into a fantasy that had us both highly aroused.

After a long session he reached climax.  I was on the verge of ejaculating (something that I don’t do much with him, and something he has never witnessed me doing).  So I grabbed one of the first toys I ever got, called a Crystal Wand, and I did some U-spot/G-spot stimulation.   It didn’t take long at all before I was ejaculating over and over again.  Thank God, for the Liberator Fascinator Thow, otherwise it would have been very messy.  My partner was a bit surprised by it, he actually gasped and his eyes got really wide.  I got a little self conscious, but I was really high from the lovemaking and now the demonstration that I was doing for him.  We didn’t really get any afterglow time because the babysitter was off in 5 minutes, so we had to scurry to switch gears.  Both of us felt very altered from our experience together.  I was so relaxed.  The most relaxed I have felt in a very, very long time.  YAY!