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Day 67- Don Wand and Aloe Cadabra- YUMMY!

It really does help to take time out in the middle of the day to do my self-pleasure session!  Today I played with a Don Wand called the Bent Graduate, a double ended glass toy that was really very pleasurable.  I used some of my new favorite lube by Aloe Cadabra, it’s made of Aloe and that makes it great!  Combined G-spot stimulation with Clitoral Stimulation and played my way to a really nice blended orgasm!  Yay!  Most of all it was great to be with myself and great to get back in touch with taking the time to breathe and get somewhat out of my head.

Day 66- Experimenting with Adrenaline and Oxytocin

Today I went to a workshop with Michel Odent, the workshop topic was mostly on Oxytocin- the love and bonding chemical.  We discussed natural oxytocin and synthetic oxytocin.  Michel talked about how Adrenaline cancels out Oxytocin and how we need to get out of our Neo-Cortex (thinking brain) in order to have both an orgasm and give birth (not usually at the same time).  He gave us ways to get out of the Neo-Cortex and into the more primal parts of our brain.  The workshop was very stimulating, especially since I am a total geek about bio-chemistry.  I came home really excited about my work and started writing and writing and writing.  My partner initiated sex with me.  We were both really in our heads and I so wasn’t in a space for intimacy, but we have both committed to regular romps, so I obliged.  The room was perfectly set up to stimulated my Neo-Cortex, and plenty of Adrenaline.  We had on very bright lights, which were shinning right down on us.  We were on a hard floor surrounded by computer wires and electrical cables.  We hardly breathed.  The sexual experience was so bad that we ended up laughing hysterically.  I told him I was going to do an experiment and go self-pleasure in an environment that would produce an oxytocin state.  I went into the love loft where it was pitch dark.  I was alone.  I did repetitive breathing patterns to help get me out of my head.  I had a clitoral orgasm in a matter of moments.  It was late, so as usually I was up, my mind probably would have kept me up anyway.

Day 64 & 65- Erotic Fairy Tales and Phone Sex Research

Day 64- Another late night session.  Got out a book on Erotic Fairy Tales called In Sleeping Beauty’s Bed.  I read two stories.  I love to read, I grew up devouring books.  I loved romance novels from a very early age and I love fairy tales, so I thought that this would be a great combination.  But what I found was that they were too metaphoric for me.  I wanted a little bit more meat.  Everyone was virginal and it just didn’t do much for me.  I admit I have to read some more stories to delve deeper into the world of Erotic Fairy tales and although they were pretty metaphoric, it was still a bit of a turn on, which was good since I’ve been so in my head lately.

Day 65- Today I was on Playboy Radio, a guy named Jeff called in and gave me a suggestion for my 101 Days of Self Pleasure.  He Recommended that I try Phone Sex.  I admit I have never tried this or thought of it, but why not!  I came home to do a little research on the topic.  In my google search I came upon Betty Dodson’s site, I’d love for her to give me some homework!  At any rate, I found a 1-800 number to call, but thought I’d do a little more research before actually doing it.  It was late an night and if I’m going to do it, I want to have an orgasm.  I’ve been frustrated with not having an orgasm with all these evening sessions.  Why bother self pleasuring when I can’t have an orgasm!  Maybe that’s the wrong attitude, but sure do like my orgasms.  I did a little genital touch with dreams of having phone sex.  One days soon, I promise.

Day 62-63: Sexy Yoga Nidra

Day 62- Back into my pattern of Clitoral Stimulation, body tension and then orgasm.  These late night sessions are just not my favorite.  These orgasms before sleep, take away my sleep and have me up all night, all energized.

Day 63- To balance out my pattern I decided to try something new.  Yoga Nidra is a meditation to help you get into a Theta State, in other words, to help you relax really deep.  I learned it when I became a Tantra teacher and it was always my favorite part of the weekend workshop.  I loved teaching it, but I noticed that the genitals were left out of the meditation.  So, I recorded my own version, which I call Sexy Yoga Nidra, where the female genitals are included!  I didn’t use my recording, but instead I went through it in my mind.  It was a wonderful way to relax before bed and to use visual imagery to get my libido lifted!

Day 60 & 61- Before and After Lovemaking

I just wasn’t in the mood for sex.  My partner and I had planned an intimacy session together, but I felt really in my head and was having a hard time switching gears from work.  I took a shower and decided to do a little self pleasuring to get in the mood.  Boy was I resistant!  I just couldn’t get into the right head space.  A little genital touch in the shower did help get me feeling a bit more open to the idea and I was ready by the time my shower ended.  We climbed up into the love loft, but just as we got things started the baby started crying.  I went down to soothe him back to sleep.  Back up in the loft we got going again with a little foreplay, but the baby woke a second time.  Third attempt, but to no avail.  The baby must have had “sex dar” tonight.  By the time I finally got him asleep for good, my partner was pleasantly snoring away in the love loft.  It was after midnight, a new day, so I thought I’d try a little self pleasure to help me relax.  I went out to the living room and there in the darkness proceeded to do a little self touch, but it seemed so unsuccessful.  I still couldn’t get into it.  I have so many tools to help me overcome moments like these, but I just wanted to sleep or work.  And since this is all about self pleasure, that’s what I proceeded to do: Sleep.

Day 59- B-Swishes (Bcurious)

I don’t know what it is about using a vibrator, but I just want to go straight for my clitoris!  All of my training as a sexologist goes out the window and I don’t use any of my erotic tools.  I noticed this as I played with a new toy.  I left the bcurious charging overnight so that it would be ready for me today.  I love the ergonomic design, it fit so perfectly in my hand.  I found that the 4th speed was my favorite with little pulses and a buzz.  Once I stopped myself form going straight for the gold, I was able to play more creatively.  It’s nice when I sink into the sensations.  The bcurious was a great warm-up and I really want to try it again.  I finished my session with some manual stimulation combined with the vibration and had a lovely clitoral orgasm.  I ended with some yummy coconut water.

P.S.  I also had the opportunity to go to a dance class tonight, which is so much self-pleasure it’s crazy.  The class was with Misty Tripoli, called the Groove Method, and I had an awesome time!

Day 58- A New Discovery- Anal Vibration

My legs are still shaking as a write this.  A lovely afternoon with myself has led to a feeling a euphoria and being “weak in the knees”.  I decided to do the homework assignment that Sheri Winston gave me.  I got out the Eroscilator, which I have used before and gave it a second round.  I stared on my thighs and oscilated my way towards my vulva.  I played with it on my labia both on the inside and outside, I went for my clitoral shaft, and eventually the head of my clitoris.  When I got to the head of my clit, it was just way too sensitive, so I backed off.  I don’t know what it is about me and vibrators, but when I play with one I just want to put it on my clit and see what it does.  I must resist that temptation.  Then I felt something that surprised me.  I felt the vibration in my anus and it felt good.  I have to admit, I feel a little vulnerable putting this all out there, but I have committed to sharing all of this, so here goes…

First I started on my butt checks, which felt really good.  Then I worked into the area between my vaginal opening and my anus, that felt good too.  Then finally I put the head of the Eroscilator on my anal sphincter, that felt awesome.  I held it there with one hand, while I used my other hand to stimulate my clitoris.  That felt really good!  So I kept going until I worked my way into a deep and intense clitoral orgasm.  I used some breathing too, seems to have carried over from the weekend of doing lots of breath and sound.  It definitely feels like there is a lot coming together (no pun intended).

Day 57- A Prelude to Sex

Men often masturbate before going out on a date or having sex with a partner.  It is often to help pro-long the lovemaking experience- to help them last longer since they have already ejaculated.  But you hardly ever hear about women masturbating to orgasm before sex with a partner.  I decided to do it and see what happened.  I did a bunch of clitoral stimulation, played in and out of my pattern and had a great orgasm.  It was great to have a little foreplay with myself before getting on my with guy.  I was curious if it would decrease or increase my desire for him.  I do wonder what the difference would be if I had just worked myself up, but didn’t have an orgasm. That will have to be for another time.

A few hours later I was up in the love loft with my partner.  He was having a lot of pain in his hips and legs, so I started by just holding his pelvis.  He talked about how stressed he has been, how much pressure he is putting on himself and how much he has missed us being able to connect for long periods of time.  Tears came into his eyes and he started to release a bunch of emotion.  I was crying too.  It was a very emotional and intimate session.  We started touching and holding each other going in and out of emotional intensity.  We did some oral sex, lots of touching and very little penetration.  Neither of us had a big explosive orgasm, but instead we had something very deep, very intimate and very connected.  I think that if hadn’t had an orgasm earlier in the day I might not have been in the space for something like this.  I might have felt like I needed some “normal” sex and my orgasm.  It was nice to just float in pleasure, love and connection without any need for anything more.  It was quite beautiful and heart felt and even more fulfilling than any orgasm could be.

Day 56- Using an Erotic Toolkit

Breath, Sound, Movement, Intention, Touch, and Music; all items for my Erotic “Tool Kit” as Sheri Winston calls it.  This session started with setting an intention.  My intention, to open my heart o myself, to love myself more.  I said to myself “I am loving me, all of me.”.  I close my eyes.  The music comes on and I start to move and breath.  I breath deeply in and out of my mouth paying attention to variety.  Sometimes I breath fast to build up lots of excitements, sometimes I breathe slow and sensual.  I let the music guide me.  I start making sound as I exhale.  I like making big sounds, big long moans and groans.  I touch my body in order to drive the sensations all over.  I especially focus on my breasts and heart area, tapping, stroking and massaging myself.  Sometimes hugging myself, sometimes opening my chests with my arms behind.  I keep breathing, sounding, touching, and moving throughout.  When the music ends I am sad that it is over but happy about how I feel.  I want more, but I’m teaching.  I sit on the floor and notice the sensations in my body.  YUM!

I am continually amazed at what using these tools, which we all have and all can do, can do for us both erotically and in life.  I highly recommend doing this to reach erotic ecstasy.  These are the tools that help you to prolong lovemaking, in both women and men.

Day 55- 1 Minute Erotic Trance

Another 14 hour day teaching at our Super Sex Life Make-Over.  I did a demo for the group on Erotic Trance.  I closed my eyes and quickly used my breath and self touch to go deep into my sensuality and erotic energy.  It’s so hard to describe this experience.  We don’t have words for moving erotic energy, for orgasms that happen from just a thought, or even touching through your clothes.  I have to admit that I am exhibitionist, so having people witness me adds to the experience.  After my one minute erotic trance demonstration the group seemed in awe.  One man exclaimed “I want to do that!”.  Luckily I have filmed what this looks like, since it’s so hard to put into words.  It’s really the first film I ever wanted to make, and I’m going to edit it myself.  It’s my first project where I am editing by myself.  I’m so excited for it.