Men often masturbate before going out on a date or having sex with a partner. It is often to help pro-long the lovemaking experience- to help them last longer since they have already ejaculated. But you hardly ever hear about women masturbating to orgasm before sex with a partner. I decided to do it and see what happened. I did a bunch of clitoral stimulation, played in and out of my pattern and had a great orgasm. It was great to have a little foreplay with myself before getting on my with guy. I was curious if it would decrease or increase my desire for him. I do wonder what the difference would be if I had just worked myself up, but didn’t have an orgasm. That will have to be for another time.
A few hours later I was up in the love loft with my partner. He was having a lot of pain in his hips and legs, so I started by just holding his pelvis. He talked about how stressed he has been, how much pressure he is putting on himself and how much he has missed us being able to connect for long periods of time. Tears came into his eyes and he started to release a bunch of emotion. I was crying too. It was a very emotional and intimate session. We started touching and holding each other going in and out of emotional intensity. We did some oral sex, lots of touching and very little penetration. Neither of us had a big explosive orgasm, but instead we had something very deep, very intimate and very connected. I think that if hadn’t had an orgasm earlier in the day I might not have been in the space for something like this. I might have felt like I needed some “normal” sex and my orgasm. It was nice to just float in pleasure, love and connection without any need for anything more. It was quite beautiful and heart felt and even more fulfilling than any orgasm could be.