Dreams of juicy sex! Woke up wanting to play…but had to wait. My co-author Jon Hanauer and I were supposed to be on Playboy Radio today. But it was cancelled due to the Hostess Tiffany Granath being sick. I hope she is feeling better. Since I now had the day free I did a lot catch up writing, but took a break for my Self-Pleasure practice. I climbed up into the love loft, where I plugged in a new Massage Wand. It’s called the Fairy Wand. I was also sent the attachment for internally stimulation but it was smelly. I was hesitant to try it because I wasn’t sure about toxicity, it’s important not to put toxic stuff in our vaginas. (So I checked the site and the attachment it totally body safe- maybe I should have checked it out so that I could relax about it!) I didn’t get all that into it. I was worried about the toxic smell and my wrists were really hurting from all of the writing I’ve been doing. I spent more time massaging my wrists with the Fairy Wand. Hey, this is self pleasure and if my genitals aren’t feeling it then why not go somewhere else on my body? Massaging my wrists did bring me pleasure.
I also finally tried the pretty little nipple clamps that Eden Fantasys sent me. I think because I am still breastfeeding I just wasn’t into it. I was more interested in putting them on my clit. And at a later date I could see using them on my partner. I gave up on clamps and the fairy wand and went to a wooden toy by Nobessesnce and with my own clitoral stimulation until I had a great orgasm.
As a continuation of a glorious day (see part one for the begining), I decided to explore Vaginal Pleasure. This was inspired by a question I recieved from a woman asking about how to cultivate vaginal orgasms. I’m working on my newest book with Ellen Heed and we were talking about the pelvic nerve and it’s connection to vaginal orgasms. See, with deep penetration after lots of arousal, the pelvic nerve is stimulated which is related to downregulation of your nervous system. Relaxation is also vital to extended vaginal orgasms. But so is the excitement of sexual arousal. That’s why clitoral stimulation is also important. I talk a lot about excitement and enjoyment, tenstion and relaxation, when both are present you are more likely to experience clitoral and vaginal orgasms.
In choosing my session today I went for a larger Nobesssence Pleasure Object. Large sex toys intimidate me, therefore, I usually stay away from them. I am glad I got over my fear and gave this beautiful piece of wood a try. I am always very impressed at the design. These toys work perfect for my body. I started with stimulation to my clit with the end of the toy, then moved to teasing at the entrance of my vagina. I slowly worked my way in, first with the tip and eventually moving to deep penetration. I used my other hand to stimulate my clitoris while usinge the toy for repeated penetration. I worked with a
Warning! This is probably my most explicit post to date, so don’t say I didn’t warn you. I just had to take advantage of the huge tub in my hotel room. I poured myself a hot bath and threw in some bath and massage oil with Ylang Ylang in it. AHHH! The bath was so great that I couldn’t resist self-pleasuring. I noticed when I looked up that I could see my reflection in the large shower head. I positioned myself so that I could witness my self pleasure. Just like my pole dancing early today, it was hot! I brought some additional toys that weren’t being used as teaching aids. After a long time in the bath, I got out to do an intense self pleasure session starting by using the Ophoria Rapture with Clitoral Stimulation. After some time I added the Nobessence Kegel Sexerciser for Vaginal Stimulation. So I had all three going at once- clit, anus and vagina. After a few orgasms I decided to get back in the bath. When I went in to the bathroom to take out the Sexerciser I gushed all over the floor, that the second time thats happened. The bath was still warm, and a glorious place for after glow. I quickly shot this video, before reading some erotic fairy tales and heading to sleep.
I Started to wonder if I would actually get my self-pleasure session in today. We had relatives come in from out of town, a radio show to do, a museum visit (where I saw a very inspirational and sexy short film called Minotaur), and dinner out. We didn’t get home until 10:00PM, and I still had to get the baby to sleep. But I made it!
I grabbed some Kombucha and headed down to my office. I Started with reading a little erotica from My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday. Just knowing I was reading erotica was a turn on. I thought back to our Radio Show, where we talked about dark sexual energies and ravishment and I thought I’d like to ravish myself. When I looked at my table of new toys I picked one that said Ravishment to me. That was the Nobessence Seduction made out of Black Palm. This wood is so beautiful that I felt honored by it’s sensual hand made sculpture. I was ravishing myself with art! It felt amazing by the way. I sat in my office chair and gave myself deep penetration with the Seduction, while adding clitoral stimulation. First I had an ejaculatory Orgasm, then clitoral. When it was all over it was almost midnight! Whew! Just made it!
Kegel exercises are so important for everyones sexual wellness and pleasure. This morning I got up early to do a Pelvic Floor workout with a Bamboo Pleasure Object by Nobessence. I started with 5 squeezes in and then 5 pushes out, repeating several times and adding an inhale with each squeeze, exhale with each push out. Then I played with one hard full contraction and one slow push out. Some arousal started building so I added clitoral stimulation with resistance on the toy by trying to pull it out with my hand, but resisting with my vaginal muscles. This was great, and I ended up going into orgasm! It’s the only workout I know where I get to build strength and have an orgasm!