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Day 60 & 61- Before and After Lovemaking

I just wasn’t in the mood for sex.  My partner and I had planned an intimacy session together, but I felt really in my head and was having a hard time switching gears from work.  I took a shower and decided to do a little self pleasuring to get in the mood.  Boy was I resistant!  I just couldn’t get into the right head space.  A little genital touch in the shower did help get me feeling a bit more open to the idea and I was ready by the time my shower ended.  We climbed up into the love loft, but just as we got things started the baby started crying.  I went down to soothe him back to sleep.  Back up in the loft we got going again with a little foreplay, but the baby woke a second time.  Third attempt, but to no avail.  The baby must have had “sex dar” tonight.  By the time I finally got him asleep for good, my partner was pleasantly snoring away in the love loft.  It was after midnight, a new day, so I thought I’d try a little self pleasure to help me relax.  I went out to the living room and there in the darkness proceeded to do a little self touch, but it seemed so unsuccessful.  I still couldn’t get into it.  I have so many tools to help me overcome moments like these, but I just wanted to sleep or work.  And since this is all about self pleasure, that’s what I proceeded to do: Sleep.

Day 49- Man on Top

This morning my partner surprised me with a spontaneous lovemaking session.  It was so awesome.  I had a number of vaginal orgasms during our session, but mostly it was just wonderful to connect with him.  After he had his orgasm I asked him to stay on top of me while I did self clitoral stimulation.  It was fun to have his presence there and I loved the feeling of his weight on my body.

I recommend having your partner join you for self pleasure sessions every now and then.  For one it can be great for them to see how you like to be stimulated. Two it can be an erotic turn on for both of you.  And three it’s a nice addition to lovemaking, especially if your partner is prone to coming quickly and you still want to have an orgasm (not that, that is my case).  There’s nothing wrong with lending a hand every now and then.