I was on Playboy Radio almost a month ago when one of the callers gave me a homework assignment to try phone sex. I came home and did some research and found a number on Betty Dodson’s site– 1800 EROTICA. I went into the session feeling like I wouldn’t really be able to get into it and that it would ultimately turn out to be cheesy and dumb. I was wrong.
Here’s my experience…
I was nervous, and I had been putting this assignment off, so I was somewhat pushing myself through resistance to try this. Today, is the day! First, I picked out a toy to play with. I got my new favorite lube– Aloe Cadabra, and a Kegelcisor. I read the instructions on the Kegelcisor, lubed up and dialed the number for the phone sex line. First they wanted to verify my age, I had to answer a few questions to an automatic service. It was discreet and non-invasive. Plus, free I might add. Then they asked if I was a man or a woman and if I was looking for a man or a woman. Next, I was asked to make a personal message. So, I recorded a short blurb about play and experimentation. Then I was given a number of messages to listen to from men. I was surprised that some of them were really sweet, some were very erotic, and some I knew right away that I wasn’t interested in. Almost instantly I started getting private messages and invites for connection. Some of the private messages were very arousing. I’m putting it all out there, so I have to admit that the more arousing ones were men describing what they were doing or what they wanted to do. I was less turned on by messages about age, hair color, location, weight or whatever. While I listened to the messages I started in with clitoral stimulation and playing with the Kegelcisor. I loved the weight of the Kegelcisor and the idea that I was working my pelvic floor muscles. I finally did choose someone to connect with. It was a message about teaching me how this all worked. Ultimately the sex educator in me won out. I wanted to learn so that I could teach! Unfortunately, the caller was no longer on the line, so I went back to listening to the sea of erotic voices out there. All of them seemed to want anonymous erotic connection. I rode the sea of male voices on the line, that was pretty much enough for me. Some of their messages I played over and over. I had three orgasms that rolled into each other, first two vaginal orgasm and then a deep clitoral orgasm. And right when a voice said “I would really like to be there when you have an orgasm”. Well, he got his wish.
I hung up the phone and kept playing with the Kegelcisor. I did about 5 minutes of specific exercises for my pelvic floor muscles. It felt great post orgasm, like a deep massage after an intense workout.
I would actually recommend this. It was fun, it was exciting and new, and I felt in control of who I wanted to talk to. And it was pleasurable! The thought did cross my mind that some people might consider phone sex cheating. I’m in an open relationship so it isn’t an issue for me. However, I could see how some people might get triggered by it. On another note, phone sex is safe sex. You don’t have to worry about STD’s, STI’s or emotional entanglements.
First of all I started the day off with a great clitoral orgasm, did some work and then headed off to my first Strip Tease and Pole Dancing class. I just signed up to 8 weeks of getting my sexy on. It’s part of this commitment to myself to do things that feed me, my soul and my sexy. So, after 2 hours of LA traffic, I finally arrived at the studio. I was very surprised. It was dimly lit, you could barely see, three poles stood in the room. The class was very small, only 6 women total. We started with floor work, stretching, arching, moving ever so slowly. I especially liked lying on my stomach, slinking back with my butt in the air, and touching my curves. You are very encouraged to touch your curves and your “center” as they call it. I was very shocked that we were claiming our “centers” with touch. The whole 2 hour class could be construed as a little self pleasure practice in public, all this self touch, feeling sexy. I one pole trick and a very sexy little routine. IT was HOT! I felt HOT and that was most important.
